Facebook Sucks

no sex tip here. it’s just that facebook sucks.

they have twice deleted my account for spamming.

absolutely amazing. as far as i can tell it only takes a series of words repeated in posts or posts too close together in time to be completely deleted from facebook. there seems to be no human involved in the process.

below is the email i sent the second time i got deleted. at the top is the response they sent me at my appeal. it was word for word the same response i got the first time i was nailed.

it seems when i end my posts/emails with

in touch,

i am spamming. those are the only words that were common to all the various emails and posts that got flagged as spam. amazing.

Hi Holly,

Your account has been disabled because you have violated
Facebook’s Terms of Use. Abusing the features of the site
to spam other people is not permitted. I’m sorry, but you
will no longer be able to use Facebook. This decision is

Thanks for your understanding,

Customer Support Representative

[stcgirls@hotmail.com – Fri Aug 24 01:45:31 2007]:

i get a spam warning because a dozen people try to add
me. people i don’t know. so i write a note saying “hey, how
do i know you?” and stuff to find out why they wanna add

and since like a dozen people try to add me i just
paste it in there.

and i get the spam warning. fine. it’s
obvious to me the server saw me putting the same thing

but isn’t there an actual person who figures out the
context before a spam warning?

then all of a sudden i’m posting something in a group and i get disabled?

i totally don’t get that. the disabling rules seem really inconsistent.
was there a human at all who decided anything or is it all


in touch,

if you knew me in facebook, please email me at my address on my blog. i welcome your contact!


DeeDee Doodle

the doodlebops are a pretty amazing band. i’m not 4 years old, but i can certainly apreciate them.

they are much fun on those days i wake up before noon.

the thing about deedee doodle is that she has a great spirit and a great voice. and after a bit of searching and filtering out the porn actress lisa lennox, i found the lisa lennox who plays deedee.

and it’s silly, but i have a crush on deedee doodle, like probably many 4 year old boys.

pinch me!

in touch,

Emotional Spectrum – Warm Fuzzies to Angerfests: Pants really ought to be stronger.

Emotional Spectrum – Warm Fuzzies to Angerfests: Pants really ought to be stronger.

so i got home from a day at wreck beach the other day and i figured something else out. it’s been a week of learning BIGtime truths.

at the beach i was hexing and warding off the 21 year old losers from cloverdale who wear knee length shorts and cowboy hats and try to put there blankets down near pairs of naked girls. and i got thinking about dressing provocatively.

there’s such a black and white thing about it. girls should dress hot cuz they might be responsible for rapes. the alternative is to dress such as to not enrage male hormones.

first question: why then don’t we wear burkas cuz that’s what they’re for in islam?

but the point i figured out is this: it’s not OUR fault that some men have rapist tendencies. to dress so as to not provoke those criminal acts, WE must change OUR ways. that means the rapists among us are allowed to not have to address their rapist tendencies.

what about the middle road: dressing hot cuz it’s nice to show off a body i’m proud of and let girls and guys enjoy it WITHOUT FEARING THEY’LL RAPE ME.

then it’s the double standard thing: guys can dress hot and slutty and love it and girls love it and everything’s ok. what’s the difference? the difference is that for probly just biological reasons, women usually CAN’T rape men. we aren’t strong enough.

so here’s a good sex tip for christian and all girls, but particularly hot christian girls that i’d like to see in more sexy clothes. the next time someone accuses you of dressing slutty and uses the argument that they may incite rape or lust, ask why a woman changing her behaviour is the solution for woman-hating men to be allowed to have rapist thoughts. that should be a conversation stopper.

we deserve to look good without being responsible for others’ criminal minds.

that said, ryven’s post is a fun little day in the life thing to read about and i won’t say what she should or shouldnt do about showing boob flesh in job interviews or other contexts, but it got me thinking about what we should be able to do.

that said, cute girls should show their bodies. we deserve it. and you know what? we’re ALL cute!

in touch,

Emotional Spectrum – Warm Fuzzies to Angerfests: More thoughts on religion

Emotional Spectrum – Warm Fuzzies to Angerfests: More thoughts on religion

this chick kicks ass!

she’s got her head quite on straight!

in touch,

The lie of men who "honour" women: something i learned today

this post is from my blog in bigchurch.com. in there recently, some guys have been saying blunt, insensitive, woman-hating comments/jokes which they apologize for later by regretting being insensitive. women who respond to their filth end up apologizing for their reaction…which i think is shameful and a result of a chauvanistic society that makes women feel guilty for making men feel bad. gimme a break.

essentially the advice i give below is for all chicks, but christian girls in particular cuz in christian communities it seems to be more acceptable to put up with woman-hating.


in writing a response to some guy’s anti-woman hatefilled generalizing comment on another blog post i figured out something about men.

and this isn’t about Men in general but lots men i’ve known. most Men i’ve known haven’t really been a physical, mortal or emotional threat to me.

2 have.

at any rate. men who actually hate women [but dont’ know it] often claim to love and respect women. they talk the charm talk and sleep around [showing their love of women in general] and claim to be nice to women. but they also abuse women emotional, mentally and physically. actually hitting women with the baseball bat is only mildly more awful than swinging it menacingly.

so what i’m saying is that some men hate women when they think they don’t. but theire actions betray their true feelings. and what i figured out in writing a post in someone elses blog is that the women they love are the ones who won’t challenge their dominance over women. women are great if they build these men up. women forgive them for their blunt, insensitive comments. women recognize their painful past often causes their bad behaviour. being generous and forgiving is fine, but if the person yer extending forgiveness to KEEPS picking up the baseball bat or posting horribly insensitive anti-women comments or “jokes”, he needs to go to jail….or the equivalent in a blog…at the very least being challenged on his rudeness and offense.

so the women-hating men only love women who keep the men in power over them.

advice time..women and girls: men who at times treat you with respect, but at other times hurt or try to hurt you are faking it when they are treating you with respect. you need to be firm and assertive with them. you must call them on their horse turds. you must let them know that you will put them in jail if they threaten or hurt you. you must tell your friends, the rcmp, your mutual friends and take the risk of looking victimized…CUZ YOU HAVE BEEN VICITIMIZED. and because of that, the women-hating men trust that you’ll live in the shame and not nail them for it.

but you shouldn’t. you should name them as the bullies they are and let them and their social network know that if any threats or attacks [physical, mortal, emotinoal, psychological] come your way, you will respond with lawyers, the rcmp, or in the end in dire times with the kickboxing you’ve been learning. if you aren’t learning kickboxing, get on it, girls!

a gf of mine lives in a big condo. someone she knows a few floors down was broken into one night last month when his wife was outta town and he was sleeping and there 2 year old was asleep in her bedroom. the burglar got some jewelry and the ipod and even went into the kid’s bedroom and took the coin jar. so lame. but that’s not the point.

the point is that the sleeping guy was freaked out, not only at the thought of burglar in his daughter’s room, but that he was freaked out that if he was awake, he would have killed him with his kickboxing. now i know americans are down with having guns at home and feeling ok about killing intruders who wanna steal the plasma tv. but this guy was terrified that if he were awake he would not have stopped attacking the burglar until the guy/girl [whatever] was dead. and that crushed him. but i’d do the same. even if it meant years of therapy to get over killing a guy with my bare feet cuz he was in my daughter’s room.

my point is that i found great strength from that story. i’m willing to defend myself against people who emotionally, psychologically, physically or mortally threaten me. be it the rcmp, lawyers, shaming the guy with his friends and coworkers or physically defending myself to the point of mildly or if need be seriously injuring him [or more if necessary] if my life is in danger.

if americans can kill intruders with guns to protect their plasma tvs, i will protect myself against men who claim to respect women, but callously abuse and dishonour them.

if someone posts a beautiful blog piece where love and joy take place and some woman-hating man who claims to respect women spreads a piece of toad turd in there about women, i will not need to use my kickboxing to incapacitate him. but if i go somewhere else to respond to his filth, the post remains beautiful, yet with some unchallenged assualts on women coming from women-hating me.

so. that said. i need to reiterate to the people who backhandedly accuse me of hating men. that only two men i’ve known have had the capacity and mental tendency to kill or hurt me. they’re no threat to me anymore.

since them, i’ve encountered 2 others i spotted as those types at parties or as friends of friends. one of the guys was an athlete in a contact sport [which i won’t disparage by naming] and was really inappropriately physically aggressive…”just joking” tho even after he was making me and 2 gfs really uncomfortable and we said so. the other i was making out with and he wanted to go further than i did. it was one of those right on the edge of date rape that most girls encounter [yet mostly don’t report]. i stopped it with a minor kickboxing move that merely bruised him bigtime on one muscle.

i ended contact with them without ambiguity. i let them know that if they interacted with me again, i’d maim them. starting with their family jewels. they called me nasty names, but it worked. they’ve stayed away. part of how it worked is i let our mutual friends know how they crossed a line, so it’s out there and if they think they can cruise back my way without anyone else knowing, it won’t work cuz already tons of people know.

and in the end, i love Men in general and most of the men i’ve met in my life have been awesome, even if i haven’t gotten close to them or liked them much, they’ve been honourable human beings and respectful of women.

but i tell ya…the few in the tiny minority who think it’s ok to knock women around a bit, need to know that i will do my best to maim them and their future ability to sire offspring. and unlike the guy who shuddered to think that he woulda killed his intruder if he was awake, i’m willing to do so if my life is on the line. i’d be prepared for learning how to deal with it after the fact, but i’d rather deal with killing an abuser than being dead. DEAD. and to the men who think it’s funny that a good thing about dead women is they nag less, should give their head a shake, contact their local ywca and take a rape crisis counsellor out to a nice olive garden lunch and ask her/him about their day.

and those of you who wish to write off my comments and accuse me of being a man-hater, read again what i wrote about the proportion of men in my life i’ve loved. and if you still feel legitimate to criticize me, you must first share with us all your story that is similar or worse to being a teenage girl with a pre-teen sister and a bruised mother dealing with a jerk dad who picks up baseball bats and waves them back and forth to get his way and make the women in his life honour him.

if your story is in the same boat, i welcome your criticism.

if it’s not, your criticism might be met with some harsh reply.


so i’m housesitting for a friend’s cousin for june. vancouver is odd. there’s all these new free daily papers. smily folks thrust them at me at busy intersections and the skytrain stations.

the metro, 24hrs, dose…they all seem to be like the ticker running across the bottom of newsworld. factoids without the backstory.

big headlines are kinda silly too.

today’s metro is “Sex before 16 is a sin?”

the prime minister’s gonna raise the age of consent from 14 to 16 in canada.

so someone goes out and does a morality poll of canadians and finds that 2/3rds think sex before 16 is a sin. well, that’s the headline. the poll question actually said immoral.

now, christians know that extramarital sex is a sin. i guess in canada most think 16 should be the lower limit. i didn’t lose my virginity until my 20s, but if i could have done it all over again with the ball and chain of a repressive, anti-woman conservative church, 16 would have been about the time for me.

so that’s interesting.

also interesting is that 31% think homosexuality is immoral. i guess that includes bisexuality [for me].

but here’s something too wierd. only 81% think pedophilia is immoral. wtf?

what are the other 19% thinking? do they maybe not know the definition of the word? are they for some stupid reason unsure? are they interested in diddling kids and admit it to an annoymous pollster by saying they don’t think its immoral?

with all the crap the glbt community and liberal christians get, you’d think people would be a little more freaked out about the lack of 100% objection to pedophilia.

or maybe that’s just me.

The Solitary: Sluts vs. Virgins: America

a very sick and angry christian writes about torturing revolting teenagers who have sex.


my comments follow his text.

The Solitary: Sluts vs. Virgins: America

Sunday, May 07, 2006
Sluts vs. Virgins: America
to read the Original Article, click here

Recently a woman reporter on PBS’s Frontline did a very telling interview with several young girls. The first three to be interviewed, at first glance, looked like cute fifteen to sixteen-year-olds. But on second glance you notice the depraved features. They’re scantily clad and sitting in bed smoking.

What you assumed was innocent girl talk turns out to be their boasting about “He did her, while she did the other guy, who was on top of her friend, while she took his…,” etc., etc. And it soon becomes obvious that they’re not even hookers because they do it for fun and not for money. It’s the “in” thing to do in their peer group.

The interviewer asked them how old they were when they lost their virginity. One said around thirteen or fourteen. The second said she was thirteen, and the third remembered that she was twelve at the time.

Instead of your heart going out to these youngsters, if you’re like me, you can’t help but feel revolted. There wasn’t an ounce of innocence left in any of them. They had become nothing but hardened, empty sex toys ñ and were proud of it.

The scene then changed to three other girls about the same age, three Christian girls who were still virgins. Unlike the three swingers above, these three were outcasts in their high school because they believe there should be no sex outside marriage.

Can you believe the world is this topsy turvy because of the degeneracy of the likes of Bill Clinton and his following of liberal perverts? They think it’s normal behavior for youngsters to be passed around like a used condom to male, female, under-age, over-age, all-orifice “love” freaks.

But the three sixteen-year-olds who are still virgins are treated like pariahs in their own school. The new unpardonable sin for the sexopathic left and their victims is moral “hangups.” People like the three little swingers, who spread lethal diseases and kill their unborn babies, are not the ones to be pilloried. It’s the chaste and decent ones who need to be sent to counseling for their sexual guilt complexes.

Did you think it was only the John Rockers who will be marched off to reorientation camp for their homophobia? You’ll be sent there even sooner for praising chastity, so they can fix your “abstinophilia.” After all, it might be contagious and bring the country back to some degree of moral decency.

I’m sorry, when I see things like this I can’t help but have a fantasy. I imagine that women like the three little swingers are sent to one of the Muslim fundamentalist countries, where they’re taught some of the sobering Old Testament truths about their behavior.

It’s no wonder that countries where they have strict views on chastity see America as a source of moral corruption in the world. Can you blame them for not wanting to send their daughters here to be turned into rebellious little sluts? Even though there is much hypocrisy in those countries, because of their own corrupt practices, their view of America reflects the extent of moral decay in a country that was once the standard-bearer of decency in the world.

Who’s to blame for American decadence? Didn’t I say before that it’s trickle-down immorality?

Throughout the ages, it always seeps down from corruption at the top. That’s no excuse for the followers. We’re not forced to go along with it. But, on the whole, it’s like a law of physics in the area of society and morality. If the head starts rotting, it spreads throughout the whole body. If your brain becomes corrupted with perverse attitudes, your body will follow suit. You’ll see it in your face and eyes and in your body language. It will undermine your physical health even if you’re lucky enough not to contract a communicable disease.

A country is no different; even the entire world is no different. The converse is true as well. Just as in ancient Israel, the country was strong and healthy whenever it had moral, God-fearing kings as it was weak and strife-ridden whenever the kings were evil. Anyone who thinks the U.S. is an exception to this is a victim of the Big Lie.

posted by Solitary Copt at 6:36 PM

wow. i feel sorry for you that you don’t even have enough compassion for your heart to not go out to the teens involved in sex.

even without the trite love the sinner, hate the sin, you are just revolted by them.

christians who move straight to revulsion without compassion are not good ambassadors of the faith.

then calling on the three to be tortured until dead makes you right down there with the muslim fundamentalists the USA is fighting a war against.

how odd.

also, i’m not sure how america can be a moral standard bearer for the world when it has invaded other countries over 240 times in its checkered history. i don’t know the america you live in.

and if you blame the leadership, Clinton’s sure guilty. but what about the warmongering Bush? if he’s morally pure, wouldn’t the country be turning around to “moral decency”?

trick question. he’s not morally pure.

in touch,